“I am here to help you” is written all over my face. I have a mom face. My teenagers see it, and the requests for help hit me in my mom face like darts hit a dart board: a quick load of laundry when I’m ready to call it a day, a quick ride to the library before it closes, write a quick check…quick. It’s all quick, because no one plans ahead in my house. I get frantic texts when I’m at work: “There’s no ink in the printer and my paper is due!” Not much I can do from work, but why did you wait until now to tell me we are out of ink? Why did you wait to print your homework until it was time to leave for school? Why didn’t you bring your dirty laundry down when I was doing laundry? Why? Why do I bother to ask?
One of my biggest struggles as a parent is knowing when to keep my comments to myself. Nothing that comes out of my mouth hasn’t come out of my mouth a hundred times before, and since I’m not being heard, when should I stop offering my commentary? Can I give up? Is that legal? Can I just not respond, or respond with a vacant glassy eyed half smile? Would they notice?
My son, in his daily dash for the fleeing school bus on this rainy morning, slipped and fell on his arm…the same arm that sent us to urgent care last week when he fell off his longboard. Well, he got right up, and I suppose the bus driver took pity on him because he stopped the bus, and my son once again made the bus by the skin of his teeth.
That was probably an example of a time when I should have kept my comments to myself, but I couldn’t help myself. I texted him: “Why can’t you get up five minutes earlier?” I say it everyday, but I thought his falling might have made him realize that he creates his own drama. I was wrong. He texted back: “You can’t even ask me if I’m ok.” He was right. I am an uncaring horrible person. What I should have said was: “Are you okay? Why can’t you get up five minutes earlier?” That would have been more helpful, and “I am here to help you.”
The Daily Post, March 24, 3016, Daily Prompt: Help~ <a href=”https://dailypost.wordpress.com/prompts/help/”>Help</a>