A complement to me at this stage of my life is generally dismissed as polite conversation. I say thank you, return the compliment, and get on with my day.
Recently however someone sought me out to tell me that they think I am an “interesting person”-
Not to be confused with a “person of interest”, as in a person suspected of, but not yet charged with committing a crime.
*Interesting – engaging or exciting and holding the attention or curiosity
*Person – a human being, whether man, woman.
The sincerity in the application of this compliment lead me to believe that she meant it. Deserved or not, that compliment made my day. The reason this was different than any compliment I’ve ever gotten is:
When I was young, I was told I was cute- (dismissed on appearance)
A bit older and I was funny- (no substance),
Then older still, my identity became “the mom”. I was no longer funny, as my brain was hijacked by Barney and the Teletubbies. Three children in rapid succession will do that. (Don’t try this at home.) The compliment I received frequently at that time was “you are so nice”- (That brings a doormat graphic to mind, which I may have been at that time out of pure exhaustion).
Later I had become the bitter tired woman in an unhappy marriage. (Tired for good reason.) And then the bitter divorced woman. The “compliment” then was: “you work so hard”. (a pity party)
Well, in the process of working so much and with a personal life deficit, I have been occupied with finding out who I am, who I want to be and what I want to do with what’s left. I am now older and wiser, and I am no longer a pleaser.
To be told I’m interesting made me feel human. It hasn’t gone to my head, not to worry, it just made me smile.
So, to the person who told me that they think I am interesting, thank you!
THE DAILY POST
Aug 26, 2014
Why, Thank You?
What’s the best (or rather, worst) backhanded compliment you’ve ever received? If you can’t think of any — when’s the last time someone paid you a compliment you didn’t actually deserve?